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Archive for September 2010

gee, that sounds like a movie or something…. anyways, I had this late night discussion on twitter the other night, and found that I was having trouble expressing myself in 140 characters.  It probably did not help that I think the person whom I was conversing with may have been mistaking the topic of some of the other some-what related conversations, with the topic we were discussing.  So I made this post on tumblr, to try and clear things up, and decided to share it here.

Explaining it a bit for all the folks on twitter

Having a bit of an interesting conversation on twitter that’s getting hard to do with only 140 characters.  So I thought I’d do a break down of my reaction to Kate Winslet’s Golden Hat Foundation.

1) I am a touch jealous, because here is someone seemingly effortlessly set up a foundation to do just the good that many of us in the autism community have been struggling to do.  Just a touch.  Enough that I need to admit it, but not enough to blind me from the fact that yes, this woman has the connections and resources to make it happen.

2) A bit pissed off at the traces of martyr-parent of autistic child that I’m seeing in the mass media.  This is compounded into RAGE over the fact that I have been discussing the rather disgusting fundraising depictions of autism that some orgs use, and ways to protest and ways to describe the depths of my feelings about it.

3) a bit worried.  Oh yes, she has the potential to do fabulous things, and maybe the Autism Women’s Network can get in contact with her and we can do partnership things and get supports for under-diagnosed and under-supported autistic women and this will be AWESOMENESS.  and I really really really really really really really really really really hope that this is the case. But I gotta keep myself grounded; there is the possibility, however far-fetched, that she might turn down the woo-trail and make more work for us self-advocates.  So far, it looks like this isn’t the case, but the foundation has just begun, and sometimes weird stuff happens.

So no, I haven’t actually JUDGED Winslet yet (although I absolutely hated Titanic, but that’s not exactly her fault), although I have started picking through all the language on the website and I have faulted the media for its child-focused approach to autism.  There are some pieces that are picking up the slack and including autistic adults, but we still have a long road to go.

Also, the fact that the only faults I can find on the site is that she lists Autism Speaks as a resource.  But she also gains points by listing some very good research on autistic intelligence (done in Canada too, yay Canada!).

So as things go, nothing’s set yet, and I’m just waiting to see, and sprouting out my opinions online.

There you go, my opinion on the matter, so far. And of course, since it is an opinion, I have the right to change my mind at a later date. I expect that I’ll be letting everyone know if I do.


Posted on: September 28, 2010

I just came across this and wanted to share, from Laura Brydges on Facebook:

Hello! Hidden Disability (on Facebook) has just launched a survey that asks some very important questions about disability. It is a secure and confidential English-language survey that will give adults everywhere their chance to share their opinions on some new disability issues. Just click on the secure web link below and you will be taken to survey directly.

The survey is the result of advocacy efforts of two women who both have disabilities. They have funded this research through garage sales, and are relying on word-of-mouth for this survey to reach as many people world-wide as possible. So please forward this message onto all of your contacts, friends and family, and ask them to take part too.

The survey should only take 15 to 20 minutes to do. The link is

Please take part, and remember to forward this message onto everyone you know. Thanks!

Julie of Julie Jabbers recently received the Versatile Blogger Award, and passed it onto seven bloggers, including Big Daddy Autism. He, in turn, passed it on to Kathleen at AutismHerd. And then she has passed it onto me!!! Specifically, this blog.

And as part of the rules, I have to share seven unknown things about myself and pass it along to seven more bloggers.

  1. I am technically published in Scotland. In 2007, I studied at the Scottish Universities’ International Summer School in Creative Writing, and wrote a non-fiction piece about my childhood that was published in their 2006-2007 publication.
  2. I hate red-coloured candy. Not only does it not taste good, but I get migraine headaches from them too.
  3. I dislike initiating phone calls, especially to strangers. I prefer to call places after hours and leave a message on the message machine.
  4. I like dressing up and can even imagine writing zombie and scary movies, but I can’t watch them.
  5. I am either the best or worse procrastinator you’ll ever meet. I can procrastinate at procrastinating at procrastinating to procrastinate.
  6. When watching a TV/anime series, I will not finish it at night. Because I get depressed that the series is over in my head. I will actually put off finishing a series because I don’t want it to end in my head.
  7. I have, on occasion, out-geeked my geeky boyfriend. With references to stuff I haven’t even watched or played.
  8. EXTRA!!!! I like to hug grumpy cats when they’re trying to sleep. (yes, it is my fault if I get bit or scratched)

Really? Seven bloggers? Do I really have to? Sigh, okay, let’s see….

  1. Mama Be Good
  2. Genderbitch
  3. Cracked Mirror in Shalott
  4. Abnormaldiversity
  5. Neuroskeptic
  6. Autist’s Corner
  7. Comet’s Corner

Ta-Da!!! I found seven bloggers.

Now the question is whether or not they notice……


I made this comment on Daybreak Autism blog:

I just wanted to give you my input, as an autistic person who has heard a lot about ABA, and some of the long-term effects of ABA.

Your goals should not be to render a child to be indistinguishable from his/her peers. This is impossible, as there is no set mold for human beings.

You also should not be aiming to make a child automatically obedient, as this may damage the long-term ability to make decisions for his/her self and be able to avoid potentially abusive situations.

You goal should be to help people in the community, the family and the child to understand the strengths and weaknesses of the child, and help the child to develop skills to overcome disabilities and develop life skills in order to become as independent as possible. The goal is like being a parent, to raise a child to, ultimately, not need you anymore.

The difference is that there are various degrees of independence, and some have different potentials, but what really matters is being able to live freely, interacting as one wishes, and living happily.

this is my opinion as an autistic.



Upon the advice of my fellow bloggers, I decided to create a mirror site for my No Stereotypes Here blog.  Because you never know when things decide to go belly up on you and it’s always good to be prepared.

This is my first blog on WordPress, so HI!!!!!!!!!

In the next couple of days, I will be ‘porting in for all to see make that, few minutes…. 😀

Okay then, for the record, all the posts previously and from now onwards are imported from my No Stereotypes Here a Neurodiversity Activist blog, unless otherwise stated.

Both versions of No Stereotypes Here are personal activism/advocacy/awareness blogs, and do not relate or represent any organization. In other words, I speak for Me, and me only. If you happen to agree, awesome! If not, well, see my Code of Conduct.

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Last month, I wrote about how the Autism Women’s Network is participating in the Pepsi Refresh Project in order to get the $50K grant. This grant goes towards hosting workshops across the United States for autistic females to be able to access accommodations and supports in their communities. The money also goes towards legal fees to secure the AWN’s non-profit status, as well as site maintenance.

Sadly, the Autism Women’s Network was unable to get into the top 10 positions needed to be awarded the grant. However, we were able to make the top 100 and carry over into this month.

As a result, we have decided to help promote our cause this month by profiling autistic females. Each day, strong, courageous, creative and unique females with Autism tell their stories and share with us their personal experiences and perspectives of themselves and about Autism.

Please join us as we discover what it’s like to be female and autistic.

(Discloser: Corina Becker is Director of Networking and on the Board of Directors for the Autism Women’s Network)

In 2005, during the opening show of an art gallery for autistic artists that I coordinated, a reporter and photographer for the local newspaper interviewed me as one of the artists.  He asked me “Do you consider yourself lucky?”   At the time, I stumbled a bit to answer his question.  My answer then really did not encompass my entire thoughts about his question.

The answer to that question really depends on what does one mean by “lucky” and from which perspective?

After all, by sheer chance I was born in a country rich with health care, education and religious freedom, to a middle-class family that has been more or less stable, with access to many diverse lifestyle opportunities and human rights. I also live in a time and place where women has rights, and gay marriage is legal.  By those facts alone, I’d have to say I’m pretty lucky, considering the situations in other areas of the globe. 

Of course, the reporter probably meant in terms of being autistic.  Well then, that’s also complicated, and any simple answer possibly trivializes the struggles of other autistic individuals, as well as their accomplishments. 

However, maybe it’s easier to answer if I break it down into different perspectives and possible outcomes.

Yes, I have the benefit of having a fairly-supportive family that not only has a good understanding of autism and disabilities, but is willing to do what they can to help me out.  Even when our ideas of help differs from time to time.

No, I do not live in a location where autism and disabilities are seen as being demonic possession and I would either be outright killed, abandoned, or undergo extreme exorcism rituals to drive the demon out of me.

Yes, I do not live in an age where anyone considered disabled or abnormal are automatically considered undesirables and are locked away to hide family shame, either in the privacy of homes or institutions where patients were subject to inhumane abuses.

No, I did not receive an early diagnosis.

No, I did not receive any early interventions or therapies.

Yes, I have excellent communication skills and am functional enough to have slipped under the radar, delaying a diagnosis until age 17.

Yes, I did receive some speech therapy as a child, and some anxiety therapy as a teen.

No, I do not currently receive all the supports I require, possibly due to a lack of early diagnosis getting me into the system, or due to being less noticeably disabled. 

Yes, as a child, I was bullied, struggled through a lack of accommodations, understanding and support from teachers, and suffered from a devastating amount of guilt, mental pain, low self-esteem, depression and anxiety.

No, I was not put in an institution and did not have to survive the potential dehumanization and trauma that some institutions have inflicted on patients.

I can continue on, but I think that I’ve made my point.

Am I lucky?  In some ways, I’m not sure. I am lucky to have escaped some of suffering that being diagnosed can cause, and in some terms, I’m not so lucky because I’ve slipped through the cracks.  I don’t know how much this will effect my life overall, any way that I can predict the future. 

So, in the end, it becomes a manner of perspective, as well as one’s values and goals.  Is it to be considered normal by the rest of society, to fit in?  To have a successful job?  Or is it to find the way in which you can best be happy? 



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  • Corina Becker: Hi Anonymous person who apparently doesn't feel like giving me a name to address, and thus hides behind anonymity!!! I never said the federal gov
  • Anonymous: I think that it is about time something is being done federally to help those with ASD to get much needed therapies for their disability and YES I do
  • Corina Becker: Hi Janine! Melody reads here? Awesome. I honestly had no idea she was aware of this blog.And thank you so much, I'm glad both of you like the bl